By the time daughter’s belongings had been dispatched and her room returned to its state of ‘spare bedroom’, I’d got the clearing-out bug. I’ve said several times in this blog that I rarely get rid of clothes so you’ll find the picture below a little unbelievable (pretty staggering from my point of view, actually). I carried out a very serious cull of my dressing room…very serious…eight charity bags worth of cull. (I know there are only seven here; I took the photo before realising that I could get rid of even more and fill an eighth). The bag collection was the following day which left little time to change my mind. I can still hardly believe that I did it. It wasn’t only clothes – they were joined by shoes, bags, scarves and costume jewellery. Perhaps the fact that it was very much on the spur of the moment (and that I was feeling inexplicably ruthless at the time) made it easier. It wasn’t that I didn’t like those things, but I liked them to look at which did not necessarily translate into liking to wear them. I buy few new clothes so perhaps I will need to be inventive with what I have left. The plan is to try VERY hard at Slimming World and to replenish with some new, smaller clothes. We’ll see.
I did not, as advised by Marie Kondo (Japanese organiser and lifestyle guru who tells us that our possessions should be limited to those which bring joy into our lives) and advocates thanking each item for its service before slinging it into the rapidly growing pile. If you’ve not heard of Kondo, she is the creator of the KonMari method which purports to enhance one’s life by simplifying and organising one’s home. Whilst the underlying principles of the method are sound (after all, chaos in one’s home is not a desirable state), for me it goes way too far. Nevertheless, I did find the exercise very cathartic but I wonder how long it will be before I’m looking for something and then remember!
Ms. Kondo is joined in her theory by Professor of Psychology, Joseph Ferrari of Chicago’s DePaul University who, in a recent study, found that people who live amid excess clutter have lower life satisfaction (not that my home is cluttered – there were just a lot of clothes). His advice is to let go of possessions and cultivate relationships because it’s the people in our lives that matter.
But we don’t really need to be told that, do we?